Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships by Ashley Stanford

[Stephen]

The most important person to provide an Asperger with friendly empathetic support – the SPOUSE.

I have Asperger’s Syndrome am married with a young son.

This book is packed full of useful information, tips and self-help. It is the best written, intelligent, outstanding, and most complete and comprehensive relationship book I have read on the subject of Long-Term NT/AS Relationships.

There is so much important information in this book that I read it twice in the first two days upon its arrival through the letter box.

This book is straightforward and easy to read as Ashley Stanford tells of the joys and explores the struggles of living with a husband who has Asperger Syndrome. She honestly describes her own difficulties understanding and translating her husband's at times rather odd and irritating behaviour.

Stanford has extraordinary insight and ability to technically analyze each Asperger trait then in turn methodically goes through in detail the Implications and Solutions for that specific trait.

At all times Ashley’s tone is light, inspirational, full of understanding, acceptance towards the difficulties her husband experiences as an Asperger struggling and agonising through life’s daily mind-numbing social hick-ups.

Stanford highlights time and time again the enormous benefits and strengths an NT gains from being married to an Asperger. She shows with compassion how to make an NT/AS marriage work also drawing on the experiences of others who have had lived with Asperger partners to give real-life positive practical solutions that have worked for her and other couples dealing with problems.

This book is most benifitical and aimed at the NT spouse/partner to build a healthier, happier marriage, less stressed existence by better coping and appreciating an Asperger’s partner's often alternate-universe.

Like with any book on Asperger’s Syndrome it does not have all the answers as no one does.

I highly recommend this book not only for adults, but also parents who are looking forward to their AS child’s future. I’ll actually go further and say this is a must have, which I do not say lightly-it’s that good.



Title: Asperger Syndrome and Long Term Relationships
Price: £13.95
Paperback: 288 pages
Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers (6 Dec 2002)
Language English
ISBN-10: 1843107341
ISBN-13: 978-1843107347

Note: In order to ultimately have a happier and mutually fulfilling NT/Asperger Long-Term relationship/Marriage there are two extremely important requisites.

1). The NT accepts the diagnoses of the Asperger’s Syndrome in their partner as this is important in enabling the NT to recognize their relationship strengths and weaknesses.

2). That both the NT & AS partner must be willing to learn and adapt, to become as knowledgeable as possible about Asperger’s Syndrome in order to gain the a solid understanding about Asperger’s Syndrome, their traits, difficulties and intentions behind their actions.

There is no miraculous pill or magical potion – Both partners will need to spend hours researching, evaluating, contemplating and brainstorming, trying new techniques.

One Final Note: Asperger parents often form a greater and more beautifully bond with their children then their NT counter parts, especially when they have enjoyed the pleasurable experience of actually being present during child birth. Asperger’s are also often very attentive towards their children and go to great lengths to assist them in practical ways.

At a Glance:

Recommend to Buy:

Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships (Best in field-packed-full of self-help)
Alone together (A good back-up)

The Asperger Answer Book-The Top 300 Questions (Good to learn about the Basics)
Parenting a Child with Asperger’s Syndrome (A good back-up)

Recommend to Read/Watch:

(DVD) Asperger Syndrome A Different Mind (Children @ School & Diagnoses)
The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome

Not Recommended unless like reading stories:

An Asperger Marriage
Loving Mr Spock

Utterly Worthless:

All Cats have Asperger’s Syndrome