being aware of bullying

[heather]

We took our 6 yr old son who has asd to a football birthday party on monday with the kids from his class. The mum had invited him not the child.

He took bob, his stuffed ghost, who he talks to like it was a person and carried him for almost the whole party. He spent the whole time sitting in the corner of the pitch, lying on the ground flat out like a starfish, playing a throw and catch game with bob and licking the rough walls of the pitch.

The kids made fun of him, stole his bob and asked the birthday boy, 'why did you invite dylan' in such a nasty voice.

Thankfully he seemed faily unaware of the bullying.

Are there any asd adults or children out there or their parents who remember bring aware of the bullying?

[Gareth Roberts]

Bullying seems to be a big problem with people that have AS and/or are different in general. It's good you have picked up on it do you can start to solve it now - rather than later.

He may seem passive at the moment, but as we get older we become more consious of what others think. That is when bullying becomes an issue.

I'm sure others will be able to advise better, but I would suggest your next steps are to try and work to resolve and overcome the problems he is having and also work with his school to reduce the bullying. It's not easy, but while he is still young it's good to nip it right away.

Bullying happens to a lot of people, even without AS so your not alone. It's a horrible experience but most of us have to put up with it at some point, it's just finding ways to reduce the issue in school where they are most sensitive to bullying.

His peers need to be made aware that it's not acceptable, and sometimes others like to do things different to them. What I'd hate to see is a society brought up to expect 'normality' because, who is normal?!

[lucky0979]

it's particularly bad in more isolated areas like hull or the isle of man that are "tucked" out of the way of school inspectors

[alienhats]

Sorry to hear you had to go through that.. It makes me so angry to see how mean other kids can be!
My kid has always been not so "active", he usually falls when he tries to run so he didn't really enjoy walking to his kindergarten, so one day he insisted I take him with a stroller, and I tried to get him off the stroller before we came to kindergarten because I was afraid other kids would react to that. That was a year and a half ago. He was 4,5 years old. He didn't want to walk still so I had to push the stroller. I remember all the kids started laughing and showing him to eachother, and they yell at me asking "why does he sit in a stroller? Is he a baby?" I was so mad at the silly kids! I mean maybe it is not the same thing but do they make fun of people who use wheelchair too?
Also for this saturday and friday my son's little brother (he is 4 now) invited to birthdays which my 6 year old son is not invited. So now I don't know if I should tell him that they didn't invite him or should I try to keep it secret?