new here and seeking help for partner.

[wootlebug]

Bewildered,

I know you must be hurting and I know it seems that the world is never going to look any better. But it will. You just have to be able to walk away, tell yourself that the break up is not your fault and learn to rely on yourself.

Take six months to a year away before leaping into another relationship. Give yourself time to find out what went wrong and how you can avoid it happening in future.

Above all don't blame yourself or think that you somehow "deserve" what happens to you.

Good luck and all the best.

[bewildered]

believe me, i'll never be leaping into another relationship, i didn't leap into this one.
and yes, i'm a very strong woman and have learnt through life experiences to be very self reliant..until now.
i'm 62 years old, he's a little older, but don't let the numbers fool you, inside i'm still 25, had been on my own very happily for a number of years.
he wasn't happy, and i now believe he used me and to provide a couple of years of fun and travelling with me.
this morning he sent me a valentine card, late..
the picture and words were significant. a cartoon pair of mens underpants were on the front, with the words, roughly translated, meaning, it's only the contents of these that are important.
draw your own conclusions from that.
he also enclosed £50 with the words wishing me a good 2010 with suprises and laughter.
i will, of course, return this back to him complete.
he's also playing mind games with me, on a forum that we're both on.
i'll be leaving that forum as soon as i resign from being a moderator there.

maybe he doesn't have any aspergers, or anything else.
maybe he's just an evil man, who preys on vulnerable women.
he does seem to have an unhealthy interest in sex and rape as i'm now discovering.

and no i don't blame myself, and i certainly didn't deserve what has happened.
he himself admitted that.

i intend to have one last summer, travelling and enjoying the sunshine,
and then..
my health is failing rapidly, and then it'll be goodnight.

again, thank you for everything, wootlebug, i wish you love and peace on your journey through life.