Need some help, im worried for my son x

[kimbles]

hi x my name is kim and im new to the forum,, I am worried about my youngest son and need some help and advice

My youngest son is 3, 4 in march and i guess ive always known he was different, his routines, habits and awful tantrums

well i cant cope anymore, my little boy is so frustrated and upset with the world and i need to be able to understand why, I have been in denial for about a year and a half now telling myself he was nothing like our nephew who has ADHD and Aspergers but life is becoming harder and harder

My son has constant outburst, he lashes out at his brother and sister if they so much as breathe in the wrong direction, he is terrified of going to nursery to the point he goes rigid and it takes me and my 6ft other half to get him dressed in the morning, he cannot cope with being told off, he cannot cope with anyone else "winning" he has to be first in the door, first to the car, he has to sit in the same place all the time, he even has to go to the toilet first!! its just a nightmare, he doesnt like going anywhere different, wont talk to new people just puts his head down and if he goes into a tantrum he has no regard for anything
he doesnt think twice about trashing a room, picking things up and throwing them, screaming in peoples face, he does have friends at nursery but he only plays with 2 little boys and if they are not there he is incosolable, he has extreme seperation anxiety when it comes to leaving me and to be honest im at the end of my tether

Does this sound like Aspergers?? and what can I do to help my little boy??

Thank you so much for reading,,, kimbles x x